The toughest thing we experience is leaving someone you hold so close to your heart for the best interest of both. It can be your lover, friend, family member, etc. But, if holding on to them would eventually bring only sadness upon them or ourselves, we need to let go. It can be the best thing to do for the sake of themselves and yourself. Holding on to people who make you suffer rather than give you happiness and serenity, should be removed from your life, because it only becomes more and more toxic.
You are in control of your life, as long as your circle is little with the appropriate people who match you, Then, that’s all that matters. Do the right thing even if it hurts you the most. It might be best for the both of you.
Let’s take a look at the signs!
1. The person repeatedly breaks your trust
Trust is one of the greatest fundamentals needed for a strong relationship. It builds the foundation upon which a relationship is constructed. Lack of faith can easily weaken a relationship. Deceit is the worst thing a relationship could ever experience. It weakens the relationship and brings immense pain to each other.
Never blame yourself if you were cheated on, especially if they do it again and again. It’s not your fault, but theirs. It’s natural to feel as such, but it’s not really the truth. They are at fault, not you.
2. The person is too needy
If a person drains your time and energy constantly asking for and depending on pampering, favors, money, praise, or something else, you may need to reconsider your stay on that relationship. It has to be a commitment from both sides. Not just one.
3. You change who you are around that person
If you don’t feel comfortable by being yourself around them, it is a telltale sign that the relationship is not consensual. You have to feel comfortable with them, by just being yourself. Otherwise, it’s going to be exhausting, basically wearing you out. You should never feel the need to be another person just to accommodate someone. It’s exhausting!
4. You don’t feel hopeful after speaking to or seeing them
Everyone desires someone to rely on when they feel bad. When that person doesn’t make you feel positive after pouring your heart out, it’s a sign that you have to move on. You both should accept each other’s flaws and help each other. If you feel anything but being a supportive positive role, making it worse for you, please consider leaving. Don’t think it will get better, you are only draining your precious energy on someone who puts you down.
5. They don’t listen to you attentively
If you feel like your partner isn’t listening to you whenever you speak, they may either check their phone, look away, talk to other people and literally avoid you when you speak, yes you guess right, leave! Because that shows that your presence is not a priority to them. They are completely disregarding your thoughts and feelings.
6. They don’t make any effort to make the relationship a priority
People do get busy with work, that’s life. But apart from work, you have a life! People who value their relationships apart from work know their priorities. And they will always try to stay connected. Regardless of how busy they are. They will never bring up the excuse of being busy when your relationship is at stake. Even a quick call or a small text is an effort worth to save a relationship.
7. You are not able to rely on them
You might have been that person who has always been there for others when they feel stressed. But, have you realized that when you feel lost and cornered you don’t have anyone to talk to? If you have felt so, it’s not a pleasant feeling…in fact, it’s downright disheartening.
Therefore, those people who run to you knowing they can depend on you but disappear when you need help, don’t be shy, just kick them out of the circle.
8. Forcing them to love you back
If two people decided to love and care for one another, they should make an effort to stay in each other’s life, consistently showing affection and care with wholehearted acknowledgement. Those who stick to it are the sort of people that you need in your life.
You won’t need to push them to love you back.
9. The person is not agreeing with their ill behavior
We are talking about trust, acceptance, positivity, attentiveness, and prioritization. If you feel inconsistent behavior among these signs, leave. I know people have flaws, but if they keep doing it once pointed out, regardless of your feelings, you should leave. They have to make an effort to stay with you, by building trust, producing a positive impact, giving you attention, and especially prioritizing you.
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