You bring up your baby in this word with lots of love, giving them the best nourishments you can afford, protecting them, educating them and so on. Trust me, your child loves u back unconditionally with lots of respect and gratitude towards you. True, the child feels your love for them, you are their whole world, but it doesn’t mean that you can make them do whatever you want. Don’t forget that they are human beings too and that they have their own feelings, and dreams to achieve.
I know that parents consume a lot of their time and energy but that doesn’t mean you can have a mental breakdown on your kids. You only have to make their life better. They did not ask to be born. Therefore, you cannot ask them to do whatever you want. There comes a time when your kid might get on your nerves only because he/she is a kid and they do create tantrums. It might get you heated up, but lashing it out on your kids isn’t the answer. Take a deep breath and walk away from the scene. Calm yourself down and then come back to your kid. Make them feel that you are there for them and they don’t have to storm out. Get them to feel comfortable so that they can talk to you. Give them time, let them slowly open up to you. Let them feel that you are coming from a forgiving nature, show them your kindness and they will trust you. And once they open up to you, make sure to let them know that they can always talk to you and they don’t have to bottle things up.
Do you know that anger comes from fear and pain etc? Your kid will tell you what’s bothering them. Be patient and see what they are trying to tell you. Maybe he/she needs some changes in their life. Maybe something is affecting them mentally or physically. You will never know until you calm down and talk to them before it’s too late. It’s all about balance You can be the fun-loving parents, being their best friend, but at the same time, show them tough love. You have to make sure you are a safe haven so that they do not feel they don’t have anyone to run back to. This will prevent them from bottling up their feelings and feeling like they have no one to talk to.
Think about it from your point of view when you were a kid. How many times did you get responses from your parents that are filled with anger which made you distance from themselves? Remember how frustrated and angry you were towards them when all you wanted were compassion and understanding? And that’s exactly what your child needs too – to be there for them.
Let them know that it is OK to feel not ok. it’s OK to be angry, it’s fine, it’s completely normal. People go through it every day. But the thing that matters the most is to know that they have that special someone to go back and tell their problems at the end of the day, to know that there is someone out there for you who will always stick by your side.
I know you sacrifice a lot for the kids but they are an individual on their own. Let them do their own thing. You might actually be surprised. Check the video below and you will see why.
I have been in love with writing ever since I was a kid. This led me to study English literature for my higher education. I am also an LLB(Law) graduate. I am always curious about happenings in the world. It could be anything and everything. Curiosity to explore and learn new things made me a content writer. I’m focused on improving my writing skills and increasing my passion for knowledge. Aside from being a total bookworm, I love to dance, I do Tiktok, the list goes on!
Here’s a little sneak peek into my personal life. I’m a single mother, and I have a beautiful baby girl. My life would never have been better without her.